I was writing my impressions of Sefi Atta’s Everything Good Will Come when I realised that the way I felt about a decision made by her protagonist said a lot about the way I’ve been living my life.
If you intend to read the book and are bothered about spoilers, don’t continue reading this post. Continue reading
My Twitter account got a new follower today:
Needless to say I won’t be following back.
Two to four years ago, I tried out different online dating sites including OK Cupid, Match.com and Adult Friend Finder. I stupidly gave my number to a few people I met on the site, but apart from the Sociopath from the Cesspit of Hell (Fouad Alaa Abdelkarim) I never actually met up with anyone I connected with online.
Last night, I received a whatsapp message from one of the ‘creatures’, whom I have named ‘Dick’. The following screenshots show the conversation we had. This is a public service anouncement: Avoid this fucktard like the plague. Continue reading
‘If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it.’
~ from Put a Ring on It by Beyonce Knowles
Someone said it’s a powerful feminist statement, but I feel it buys into the patriachal notion of ownership through marriage, and also discounts women who choose to want ‘it’ and don’t require men to ‘put rings on it’ first.
Perhaps the sentiments are in the right place: Don’t assume you can just have me without my permission. But, in my opinion, it stinks of sex having a price tag, and women using their bodies as bargaining tools. Or rewards. And I don’t like it one bit.